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Manly Manners: Lifestyle & Etiquette for the Young Man of the 21st Century by Senator Wayne James Available in Stores and Online, November 2014.

Manly Manners: Lifestyle & Etiquette for the Young Man of the 21st Century by Senator Wayne James Available in Stores and Online, November 2014.

by Matthew PaulsonJuly 28, 2014

LIGHTNING RELEASES (07/28/2014) – Should a glass of red wine be held one way, and a glass of white, another? How should a gentleman suggest an enema prior to engaging in anal sex? Should a man precede or follow a lady up a flight of stairs? Does the rule change when descending stairs? How does a young man identify his genius—the thing that he was born to do and  is genetically predisposed to being better at than anyone else on the face of the Earth?  What are the new and emerging guidelines for planning a same-sex wedding?  How should the husband of a baron or count be addressed? (Certainly not as “baroness” or “countess”!) Is the husband of a president or governor a “First-Gentleman”?  Which is better for eating caviar:  a silver spoon or a plastic one?  What is the difference between vin santo and amarone? What should a young man do if he gets an erection during a professional massage? Roll over and play dead?  ManyWestern men use forks and wear pants, but how many of them know the Byzantine origins of the fork, or that trousers originated in the horse-riding cultures of the East? And what distinguishes a bespoke suit from a made-to-measure one? Such topics—and many more, some more mundane, others much more arcane—are addressed in the 20 chapters and over 800 pages of Manly Manners. The book is divided into two parts, Part I devoted to the cultivation of the inner, spiritual man; and Part II‘s focus is on the outer, social man. The author’s premise is that ethics should precede etiquette in a gentleman’s journey towards refinement. To that end, this book on manners delves into matters such as whether divinity—which, incidentally, makes for good manners—is unique to Jesus Christ or is the birthright of all human beings, as well as provides guidance on the intricacies of conducting oneself correctly at the formal dinner table.

“My goal was to write a page-turner:  a reference book which reads like a suspense novel, or like the script of a Discovery Channel documentary,” former senator Wayne James said. “Manly Manners provides practical guidance:  like how to write a proper break-up or beg-back letter; or how to deal with bullying; or how to conduct oneself when detained by a law enforcement officer; or how to responsibly use social media; or what to expect when invited to dinner in Ethiopia or a funeral in China.”  

Published by i-Universe, a subsidiary of Pearson, the parent company of Penguin Books, Manly Manners will be available in hardcover and paperback at Barnes & Noble (  or ) and from November 2014.  The book will also be offered in e-book format.  And in order to provide real-time guidance to young men across the world who may have inquiries on matters pertaining to men’s lifestyle and etiquette, James has established a blog at 

St. Croix-born Wayne James is no stranger to the worlds of style, diplomacy, and courtesy.  In March of 1987, while in his last semester at Georgetown University’s school of law, James presented his first collection of fashion at the Anita Shapolsky Gallery in New York’s SoHo. One week later, Bergdorf Goodman, arguably the world’s most discerning retailer of fashion, bought exclusive rights to the collection; James went on to earn his law degree in May; and his garments were being sold on New York’s famed Fifth Avenue by July of that year.  And one year later, in 1988, James was touted by Washington Post fashion editor Nina Hyde as “one of the rising stars among young New York designers.” In 1999, James established the Homeward Bound Foundation, the organization which lowered the Middle Passage Monument onto the floor the Atlantic Ocean to serve as a gravestone for the estimated millions of African people who perished en route to the New World on board slaving vessels between the 15th and 19th centuries. He would go to be awarded the International Humanitarian Medal in Paris that year for his efforts with the foundation.  In 2008, James was elected senator of the United States Virgin Islands and served as Senate Liaison to the White House.  Since January of 2011, Wayne James has lived on three continents, devoting his full time to the writing of Manly Manners:  Lifestyle & Etiquette for the Young Man of the 21st Century.

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Matthew Paulson